Why don’t people think about dying and death?
There are hundreds, if not thousands, of texts and treatises that discuss the realms of dying and death in human terms. Cultural, religious, generational, familial, financial, technological, commercial and socio-economic factors all influence an individual’s preferences and predisposition to think and talk about the immutable fact that we’re all going to die someday.
Denial, intentional or otherwise, seems to be a preferred way for many people to deal with the reality of their own or others’ impending or eventual death. Ignoring death may be driven by the unpleasantness one associates with dying and death. For others they may assume a position of immortality: possibly age related, perhaps based on a sense of invincibility. Either postion results in the same sense of overwhelm or a focus on the practicalities of getting the issue over and done with which arises when the death of a loved one occurs or when their own death becomes evidently imminent.
So do you prefer to think of yourself as immortal and that death won’t happen to you?
Or will you step into the space of admitting your mortality, reflect on how you might make decisions when the time comes and perhaps even make a call or two and explore what options exist if terminal illness arrives or death of a loved one occurs?
Some questions you might like to consider follow:
Who would you call first if a death of a loved one occurs? Would it be a family or friend? Would it be for support or advice?
What information would help you face the death of a loved one more effectively?
What difference would a funeral advocate make by to support you in the first steps towards dealing with the death of a loved one?
Feel free to let me know…
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Jacqui Chaplin is a Lifetime & End-of-Life Commemoration Specialist (a funeral celebrant among other things) based in Melbourne, Australia. She loves capturing stories about the nature of life and being human, as well as, celebrating and commemorating well lived lives and lives that have ended. Jacqui has a passion for bringing the conversations that many of us find difficult to think about, let alone speak about, out in the open so we can see how our stories, values and beliefs influence our attitudes.
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